Become a better listener

I grew up believing i was a good listener. And although i have become a better listener than i was ten years ago, i have to admit i'm still only an adequate listener.  Effective listening is more than simply avoiding the bad habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or finishing their sentences kan!!! 

In some other ways, the way we fail to listen is symbolic of the way we live. We often treat communication as if it were race. It almost like our goal is to have no time gaps between the conclusion of the sentence of the person we are speaking with and the beginning of our own. Mostly we can see in our life husband and wife recently at a cafe having lunch together but yet  it seemed that no one was really listening to on another; instead they were taking turns not listening to one another....

Slowing down your response and becoming a better listener aids you in becoming a more peaceful person. It takes pressure from you. If you think about it, you'll notice that it takes an enormous amount of energy and is very stressful to be  sitting at the edge of your seat trying to guess what the person in front of you (or in the phone) is going to say so that you can fire back your response. But as you wait for people you are communicating with to finish , as you simply listen more intently to what is being said, you'll notice that the pressure you feel is off.  You'll immediately feel more relaxed, and so will the people you are talking to. They will feel safe in slowing down their own response because they won't fell in competition with you for "airtime". Not only becoming a better listener make you more patient person, it will also enhance the quality of your relationships. Everyone loves to talk to someone who truly listens to what they are saying.